“Cream rises to the top” is what we tell talented people who are frightened. It’s a lie, of course, but it makes them feel like they have a chance.
Confidence and courage are not the same thing.
Confidence is trust in your ability.
Courage is to have such security in your identity that you’re willing to risk open failure. “I’m okay with who I am and I know my intentions are honorable. Que sera, sera.”
Confidence springs from ability.
Courage springs from identity.
And the energizing fluid of courage is audacity.
Public speaking requires it.
Singing demands it.
And successful advertising depends on it.
The technical term for the fear of speaking – and of being judged by what you say – is glossophobia, from the Greek gl?ssa, meaning tongue, and phobos, fear or dread.
We must elevate you above this fear or you will never successfully advertise a business, promote an event, or advance your career.
Stage fright isn’t just the fear of performing in front of large groups. It’s also the reluctance to make a presentation to a group of co-workers.
Dr. David Carbonell says,
“Stage fright is like being heckled mercilessly during your performance, and getting into an argument with the heckler, except that it’s your own mind doing the heckling. You get so involved in your internal struggle that you don’t get involved with the actual performance. Most people with performance anxiety get tricked into focusing on themselves, struggling against anxiety in a vain effort to get rid of it… One of the keys to mastering stage fright is to become truly involved in, and focused on, your material. Not on yourself.”
Unless you’re a major celebrity, the audience didn’t really come to see you; they came to hear the material you brought them.
It’s not about you at all. It’s about the material. Think about the material. Think about how the audience needs it. Think about the material. Think about how the audience needs it. Think about the material. Think about how the audience needs it.
Don’t let anything get in the way of the gift you brought for your audience. It’s not about you at all.
You’re only the mailman.
I said earlier that courage is, “to have such security in your identity that you’re willing to risk open failure.”
But sometimes you need Plan B, so here it is: Commit to delivering the mail. Commitment looks exactly like courage when you’re committed to something more important than your fear. Say to yourself, “It’s okay if the audience isn’t impressed with me, as long as they’re impressed with what I brought them.”
Only a fool stands between a mother tiger and her cubs.
Be the mother tiger.
Roy H. Williams
“A great deal of talent is lost to the world
for want of a little courage.”
– Sydney Smith (1771-1845)
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JP Stonestreet helps entrepreneurs develop successful online businesses. He’s built applications and websites for companies across the world and sold two successful sites of his own. Listen in as JP maps out the steps to creating, marketing, running and selling successful online businesses. MondayMorningRadio.com